This is the blog where counselors and therapists with the Lisbon Clinic of Therapy and Counseling (www.lisboncpc.org) write about mind issues, ideas, emotions, memories, dreams, art and life in general. You're welcome to voice your opinions. At Lisbon Clinic we value the capacity to enjoy life in spite of all its difficulties. We want to be both thoughtful and helpful.
20 Dec 2009
19 Dec 2009
MUSIC AND BAD PUBLICITY
It's almost impossible to miss how the relationship between brands and consumers is changing. Traditional advertising in dying away while promotion on the net is increasing. Some brands have people monitorizing what is said about them in sites, blogs and social networks and trying to make ammends if anything is affecting their image.
Not so much in Portugal, I'm afraid. I've been propesting against the bad service Zon TvCabo is providing, specially in what concerns those new awful TV boxes but to no avail yet. Which is kind of amazing, since their CEO is someone who came from Microsoft. But then this country has ways of getting people soft.
With Dave Carroll things were different. During a trip with United Airlines, his most treasured guitar was broke. He complained, nobody paid any attention. So he decide to compose a song. It has already been seen by thousands of people in Youtube and it's a good song apart from being quite funny. Now the company is trying to make ammends, offering him reparations.
Enjoy.
16 Dec 2009
HOW TO BECOME MY OWN WORST ENEMY
This paragraph was taken from Paul Watzlawick' s "The Situation is Hopeless But Not Serious" a great book written in the 80s but very actual.
Starting from a seemingly absurd point of view, Watzlawick gives special attention to issues like "why would anybody love me" and various self-fulfilling prophecies of the kind. To sum it up, the book is about how we can make everyday life miserable and inflate small incidents beyond recognition.
A professor in Palo Alto, Watzlawick, who died in 2007, was a man of genius. You'll find this book both highly enjoyable and deep, two qualities that don't come together that often.
10 Dec 2009
MISTERY SHOPPING IN MENTAL HOSPITALS
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/01/health/01dutch.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all
I'm sure you familiarized with the technique of mystery shopping. it's world wide used, specially in services like banking, insurance, etc. The idea is that someone impersonates a regular customer, go to the bank and report their experience.
Malingering one’s way into a psychiatric ward to report on conditions within was first tried in 1887, when Nellie Bly, a journalist got herself admitted to the insane asylum on Roosevelt Island in New York City.
It was tried several other times. The article is about a recent experience in Amsterdam. Many questions are raised here, namely the secrecy and implicit trust between patients and carers.
9 Dec 2009
THE BEGINNING OF A BEAUTIFUL FRIENDSHIP
Look at what I found in Yoytube. The exact dialogue I was referring to in my comment on Ana's last post about movies.
7 Dec 2009
Movie quote
“- Do you miss him…?
- Everyday.”
(Carrie in "Sex and the City")
6 Dec 2009
SOME FRIENDS ARE FOREVER
Louis Armstrong and Ella Fitzgerald.
Enjoy!
EMOTIONAL VAMPIRISM
Yes, they exist. People who suck your energy up and leave you angry, depressed, confused, guilty or exhausted (or even all). The emotional vampires.
Sometimes they can be just acquaintances but unfortunately some of the time they are quite close to us. Too close four own good. And the closer they are, the more they can thrive on your energy and zap it out if you're not careful.
Judith Orloff once wrote (in "Emotional Freddom") that there were five kind of vampires lurking around: the narcissist, the victim, the controller, the criticizer and the splitter.
The narcissistic vampire is always looking for admiration and is often charming and intelligent. The victimistic kind keeps complaining the world is against him. The kind is the kind of person who always knows what's best for you. The criticizer is always judging and belittling.The splitter is the most impredictable: you never know if he'll be raging against you or feigning the victim.
We need to establish firm boundaries against these people. You don't need to be too deffensive - I guess the most important thing is to make him (or her) understand you won't be manipulated.
I'm not saying these people cannot be friends. They can, and some of them will, as long as you set up clear limits. Don't idealize them. Be realistic about both their good qualities and their flaws.
Things get more dramatic when an emotional vampire is someone really close like, say, your own mother. In extreme and unfortunate cases like that, I can only suggest: be affectionate but firm and try to manage the relationship in small doses.
3 Dec 2009
Renewal
It’s so good when we can finally open the door and invite someone in. But then, suddenly we realize we let our guest on the doorway… kind of awkward, kind of lost. Sometimes as the door is allowing the entry of others, the house is not yet prepared to do so… Then what shall we do…? Maybe one should forget formality, lay down the glass on the floor for a moment and ask that someone who is at the door to help pulling a couch and to offer some decoration tips…and ask that someone to sit, and – even though the glass is for now a plastic one –still enjoy a delicious drink and a good chit-chat…
STRESS QB
Sensible advises about avoiding too much stress. Worth reading. We tend to forget these things in our daily life.
2 Dec 2009
PROCRASTINATION
Procrastination by John Kelly (Animated comic about the meaning of procrastination)
Enjoy!
1 Dec 2009
THE HEART OF DARKNESS
http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/display/article/10168/1490394?CID=rss&verify=0
28 Nov 2009
IS PSYCHOTHERAPY THE LESS EXPENSIVE WAY TO WELL-BEING?
"We have shown that psychological therapy could be much more cost effective than financial compensation (...) at alleviating psychological distress", said Boyce.
You may read the whole article at:
http://trak.in/news/psychotherapy-may-be-an-effective-way-to-boost-happiness/26162/
27 Nov 2009
MORE BOOKS
Still about books. Not from this year of course, but some of them are great classics. You can download them for free. Some people can read on a PC I prefer an e-reader because it's lighter and you can enlarge the font, but the option is yours. Project Gutenberg also has lots of classics for free download.
NOTABLE BOOKS OF 2009
http://www.nytimes.com/gift-guide/holiday-2009/100-notable-books-of-2009-gift-guide/list.html
100 notable books of 2009 according to the New York Books Review.
20 Nov 2009
FIRST WORLD WAR
I have been recently to France, more specifically to the Vallée de la Somme (north of Paris) where raging battles took place. In Péronne there is an interesting museum, although not very complete.
Here is a beautiful poem by Patrick MacGill, who had been in that war:
BEFORE THE CHARGE
The night is still and the air is keen,
Tense with menace the time crawls by,
In front is the town and its homes are seen,
Blurred in outline against the sky.
The dead leaves float in the sighing air,
The darkness moves like a curtain drawn,
A veil which the morning sun will tear
From the face of death. - We charge at dawn.
19 Nov 2009
WHAT AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING!
by Nicholas Kristof (NYT)
This is the amazing story of a Zimbabwean woman, born in poverty. She had all "those" qualities: resilience, motivation, intelligence, interpersonal skills, etc etc. And generous on top of it all! (see the story of her first marriage). What an amazing human being.
To be read at:
http://kristof.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/14/dr-tererai-trent/
18 Nov 2009
BANKERS TRY ACTING
This news from the Standard may seem a bit bizarre but is quite interesting in the sense that makes you think what having a job means nowadays.
I don't think that in ten years there will be such a thing as a job. Young people maybe committed to "projects" and for their duration only - no strings attached as they say.
Rights that seemed acquired during the 20th century, like retirement when you're sixty something, salaries correspondent 14 months a year, subsidies, pensions, etc are in great danger.
We have to brace ourselves for a very tough future, specially the younger generations. Resilience is becoming more important as a personal skill. These bankers seem, at least, to be capable of finding new ways in their lives.
14 Nov 2009
IN REMEMBERANCE OF RUSSELL ACKOFF
A man of genius, the best professor I ever had. This video is about systemic thinking vs analytical thinking. Thinking as a whole for short.
MIDWAY ISLAND
The NASA site has usually amazing images. http://www.nasa.gov/mission_pages/station/science/hico_raids.html
13 Nov 2009
ABOUT DREAMS
With the help of new techniques like brain imagery neuroscience is making new discoveries about dreaming.
12 Nov 2009
BIOLOGICAL CLOCK
A new tool to know your biological clock beforehand. These are great news for women who want to program their personal and professional lives. I didn't know about it when I wrote my last post, but I'm glad to know more tools are becoming available for women who want to be in control of their lives. The article also refers to the technique for freezing your own eggs.
11 Nov 2009
WORK AND CAREER, THE OLD DILEMMA
This article is a refreshing aproach to the question of career versus having kids, and when.
I won't say I fully agree with the author, but it's a good starting point for a discussion.
More and more, young women have to put themselves the question.
They study for much longer than before and getting the firts job is getting harder and harder. however, the biological clock does not stop. Science hasn't still found a way of prolonging the fertile period. In an age when some women in their sixties look as if they are in their forties, this seems a bit ironic. But it's the sad reality.
Due to the longer studies and the delayed entry into the job market, which is more and more difficult, here in Portugal its not infrequent to be in one's thirties and still live with one's parents.
On the other hand, syatistics say young girls have their first sexual experience earlier and earlier.
Dies this make any sense? Hardly.
The fact is I don't have an answer for the dilemma. I don't think though, that staying at home raising kids, even when financially that is possible, is a good decision. Not good for the mother (work is an important part of our accomplishment as humans), not a good example for the kids.
I hear some young women up to are choosing to keep their eggs before they are 35, which allows them another 5-7 years to get pregnant. it may be a good idea, not for anyone though.
10 Nov 2009
ABOUT IGNORANCE AND KNOWLEDGE
A very interesting article by Frank Wilson. What's knowledge? What's ignorance?
Quoting:
"A little knowledge, a pebble from the shingle,
A drop from the oceans: who would have dreamed this infinitely little too much?"
4 Nov 2009
QUOTATION
Albert Einstein
IT SEEMS WE ARE MADE FOR RUNNING
I'm not suggesting we all start running marathons but this is a quite interesting article on the human capacity to run long distances and how important it was in the primitive ages.
1 Nov 2009
AESTHETICS
A few days ago I put a post about women's faces in painting across the centuries. A magnificent work in digital art, as you may remember.
This time, I'm bringing something quite different but that has to do also with aesthetics. I's about feet and weird ankle boots.
They say they are selling very well in france. Aesthetics has its own mysterious ways.
30 Oct 2009
ABOUT BULLYING
According to a doctoral research carried in the towns of Oporto, Braga and Grenade, which inquired 1237 11-16 years old, the phenomenon of bullying is being more and more accepted.
It seems it's becoming banal. 84,5% of these youngsters have witnessed acts of violence among colleagues.
What's more, the victims of bullying are referred to as "passive, socially incompetent, anxious, depressive and insecure".
The aggressors are seen as "strong, extroverted, trustful, leaders".
It's no doubt alarming.
I read in the Times that in some areas of London young girls accept rape in order to be accepted by male gang (http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/crime/article6889829.ece)
These are sad times. We have to raise our children to be more respectful towards the other - this basic civilized notion has been more and more forgotten during the last decades.
Would we really like to go back to Neardenthal habits? I guess it was like that.
29 Oct 2009
SMILE FOR GODSAKE!
happiness hat from Lauren McCarthy on Vimeo.
Smiling is one of the most mysterious characteristics of human behaviour. Why do we smile?
Some say that humans have always done that as a kind of apeasing gesture towards a menacing person. Science has shown that chimps also do something quite similar.
This video is about making you smile - whether you like it or not. Have fun.
27 Oct 2009
I have been today to Casa das histórias in Cascais to see the new Paula Rego's museum. It's a work of art. Beautiful architecture, amazing paintings.
The gardens are also beautiful designed and it's opened until 10pm. Free entrance.
You'll find below the presentation about Paula Rego's work that Prof. Paul Coldwell wrote for the Shaatchi Gallery in London.
http://www.saatchi-gallery.co.uk/artists/paula_rego_about.htm
22 Oct 2009
COD FISHING IN THE 20TH CENTURY
This was an old practice by Portuguese fishermen. An interesting document narrated in English.
20 Oct 2009
19 Oct 2009
TECHNIQUE AND AESTHETICS
When technique meets aesthetics. Female faces in painting across the centuries.
18 Oct 2009
SELF-DOUBT TURN BOSSES INTO BULLIES
An interesting article from the Research Digest Blog (British Psychological Society)
17 Oct 2009
HUMOUR IS SO IMPORTANT
Now I begin to understand why they blocked all my Google accounts for 4 days. With guys like these... Great fun. Hope you enjoy.
15 Oct 2009
THE STATE OF OUR PLANET
THE WEB 2.0 AND ITS DANGERS
On the other hand, the web and the social networks allow us to connect to people and have access to information that we never had before.
Being not an expert, I think we must be very cautious, have backup programs and try to minimize the possible damages. Make the better of it. As usual.
(I tried to place a photo related to the subject but blogger doesn't allow for photos for the time being. Speak of the devil...)
11 Oct 2009
TOYS AND PLAYS
Remember these toys and plays?
(it's also fun to have a look at the professions of some of the people who used to play with these toys)
8 Oct 2009
NYC 1994 The Ghost Towers
7 Oct 2009
ANXIOUS BABIES: HOW THEY DEVELOP

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/04/magazine/04anxiety-t.html?_r=1&src=tptw
This is a very interesting article from The New York Times about anxious babies and how they develop according to circumstances and internal (mental and emotional) experiences.
Have a look. It's worth reading the full article.
30 Sept 2009
CREATIVITY/Ilana Yahav
This video by Ilana Yahav is a wonderful example of how far creativity can reach. Creativity pertains to a healthy mind open both to internal and external experiences. Freud said it was a form of sublimation of more primary impulses. Living in the human society demands creativity - and being able to communicate it.
28 Sept 2009
26 Sept 2009
Music for the wekend
Oumou Sangaré, music from Mali!
THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING RESILIENT
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/09/26
The main "steps" are:
Step One: Become Aware of Acute Stress and Toxic Situations
Step Two: Create a Self-Care, Personal Renewal Program
Step Three: Surround Yourself with Four Kinds of Friends
Step Four: Recognize and Concentrate On Signature Strengths
Step Five: Examine Oneself and Accept Shortcomings
Step Six: Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
Note the need for a balanced circle of different kinds of friends!
24 Sept 2009
PLAYING
Another very intersting video about how important is to play, even for adults. Enjoy!
21 Sept 2009
Psychology - a good site
For those interested in psychological issues, this is a good site. This particular article is about generalized anxiety, one of the most pervasive symptoms nowadays.
20 Sept 2009
WE SEE WITH THE EYES AND WE SEE WITH THE BRAIN
I got this most interesting video on hallucinations from the blog Salpicos http://psisalpicos.blogspot.com/.
Certain hallucinations may be due to visual impairment and not psychosis.
18 Sept 2009
archives
INTERESTING SITES
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